Monday, April 1, 2013

A Holiday with Strangers


This Easter wasn’t unlike many in the last couple of years.  With schools not coordinating Spring breaks with the Easter holiday it can be very difficult to see family.  I figured I would spend this Easter with some friends from grad school but many of them were lucky enough this year to be able to visit their families over Easter weekend.

I was looking forward to a laid back Easter and maybe a little homework catch up.  However I decided to volunteer to serve Easter lunch at Central Union Mission near U Street in DC.  Central Union has a long history of serving the homeless in the Capital.  It was started as a way to care for Civil War veterans on the streets of DC.  It’s intriguing history along with the fact that it provides professional training alongside its basic food and shelter programs made me very interested in helping out at this organization.

After attending mass alone I headed down to the mission.  Upon arriving there I was surprised to find that there were so many volunteers that had come out on Easter Sunday!  There were approximately 18 volunteers serving food and drinks to the men at the facility.  Of about half the people there I would say that a quarter of them were in a similar situation as myself.  They are away from their families and wanted something meaningful to do on Easter.  Many of us showed up solo, but made friends while serving food.  I left with another girl my age whose friends regularly host an “Orphans Easter Brunch” for all the young professionals they know in the city who don’t have a place to go for the holiday.  She generously inviting me along and after navigating the crazy one way streets and roundabouts to get over to South East DC I was surprised to enter a beautiful row house crammed full of 20 something’s like myself!!    There were easily 60 people there with more people coming and going constantly.  Everyone was so welcoming and a lot of fun to be around.   The afternoon turned out to be a truly unique Easter; from sword fights on the front lawn, to discussing politics, religion and talking about what aspects of our life we want to improve on.

It can be very hard to be away from those you love especially on holidays but if you are open to it, unexpected experiences often present themselves.  Having spent Easter with what I like to call Financial Crisis Orphans*, I saw that not only was I not the only one dealing with navigating a new lifestyle but that it is incredibly common for my generation.  On a daily basis we have to adapt and recreate our lives because everything is constantly changing.  Not only do many of us lack the financial support of our now sinking middle class families but we are also characterized by having moved houses every year for the last five years.  That partnered with stints abroad, probably at least one long distance relationship, then throw in job insecurity and the fact that all of our friends are as transient as we are; you get a sense of how little permanence there is in our lives.  None of this makes me value my friends or family any less but leads to great anxiety over trying to juggle responsibilities and relationships that span several time zones.  The idea of a 5 year plan for yourself seems as unlikely as mastering mandarin in 6 months.  Planning seems impossible because all your energy is spent on navigating the challenges of the week ahead of you, and working on the 30 different things you have in the pipeline in order to survive the next 6 months and keep paying rent.  It can be very stressful but for me at least, I’ve begun to treasure the chaos in my life and value the random experiences and people that life throws in my path.  In this life a holiday spent amongst strangers at a party hosted by a girl whose name I can’t remember seems as normal as a holiday with my family.
This holiday was very exemplary not just of my life but of the lives of many people living here in DC.  My intent is for this blog to provide a glimpse into my little every day adventures and highlight what life as a 20 something is really like. 

*Financial Crisis Orphans- twenty somethings that moved away from their familes and friends to find work or attend school and still have financial insecurity 

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